Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Music Tuesday???

So... I am here on Tuesday... begging you to forgive me.

I have been listening to Morning Becomes Eclectic exclusively for about a year now. I made the switch because my previous morning music show had become far too raunchy for this household... I would like to blame it on Wyatt's little ears, but it really was because of me. My stomach would start turning when they would talk about spouses cheating, developmentally disabled people in a VERY negative light, porn, and drug use.

I kinda felt like an old lady, but I really like how I feel in the morning now...

Instead of cringing... I dance with my little guy.

So, on KCRW the other day they were playing Jack Johnson and it reminded me of an interview I once heard him give... the interview made me love him more.
(I know he is adorable, right?)

He was talking about one of his most popular songs, "Flake". I already really liked it...I thought it was a bit deeper than the typical boy/girl break-up song.

But he elaborated... That this song was a song that he wrote for a MALE friend of his... I was blown away! 

He had felt so frustrated by a friendship that was dissipating that he wrote the song about his friend. His record label really didn't like the idea of him writing a friendship song to a guy (go figure) and asked him to change the he's into she's.

I was so impressed that he felt so deeply about this male friendship that he poured his heart into a song. Also, it gave the song new meaning in my life... I knew exactly of a relationship(s) that I could apply the song to...and you know what? 

It helped me move on and embrace what the relationship was/is for what it is now, not dwell in the past and hold it up to previous standards.

You see, I have an expectation problem... I hold the expectations stagnant in time while the person evolves. And through my personal experience... it has never turned out well. So, I am working on appreciating the different phases of the friendship for what they are... not what they were or should be (in my head).

So, here it is... Flake.
 
  I know she said it's alright
But you can make it up next time
I know she knows it's not right
There ain't no use in lying
Maybe she thinks I know something
Maybe maybe she thinks its fine
Maybe she knows something I don't
I'm so, I'm so tired, I'm so tired of trying

It seems to me that maybe
It pretty much always means no
So don't tell me you might just let it go
And often times we're lazy
It seems to stand in my way
Cause no one no not no one
Likes to be let down

I know she loves the sunrise
No longer sees it with her sleeping eyes
And I know that when she said she's gonna try
Well it might not work because of other ties and
I know she usually has some other ties
And I wouldn't want to break 'em, nah, I wouldn't want to break 'em
Maybe she'll help me to untie this but
Until then well, I'm gonna have to lie to you

It seems to me that maybe
It pretty much always means no
So don't tell me you might just let it go
And often times we're lazy
It seems to stand in my way
Cause no one no not no one
Likes to be let down
It seems to me that maybe
It pretty much always means no
So don't tell me you might just let it go

(Ben Solo's)

The harder that you try baby, the further you'll fall
Even with all your money in the whole wide world
Please please please don't pass me
Please please please don't pass me
Please please please don't pass me by

Everything you know about me now baby you gonna have to change
You goin to call it by a brand new name
Please please please don't drag me
Please please please don't drag me
Please please please don't drag me down

Just like your tree down by the water baby I shall not move
Even after all your silly things you do-oo
Please please please don't drag me
Please please please don't drag me
Please please please don't drag me down 

3 comments:

  1. Wow, I had no idea it was about a guy. that totally changes how I look at this song now. thanks for sharing!

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  2. I have to agree with the person above me! Interesting! Oh, btw, I'm so glad you're posting more. :)

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  3. I can totally relate to the expectation issue. About a year ago, my husband and I decided that we would just accept relationships as they were... people weren't always going to meet our expectations, just like we weren't going to meet theirs. Everyone has flaws, so you either decide you can accept them as-is, or you move on! People change, and I am so glad I'm not who I was 10 years ago! :)

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