Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Writer's Block

I am currently in the middle of writing a Self Study. 

Not my idea of a super fun time.

I do believe that self-reflection and personal inventories are a must when there is room for emotional and spiritual growth... 

but.... on a beautiful sunny southern California day... not my cup of tea.

Alas, the adoption agency wants Eric and I to each complete a self study.

Here are a few examples of what the questions are like...
- Briefly explain the events and experiences in your life that you feel have shaped your personality.
-What was the biggest disappointment or loss you have experienced in your life and how did you cope with it?
-Describe the values, traditions, and expectations you feel your parents attempted to instill in you.
-Describe your parent's relationship to each other while you were growing up and currently.
-What role does your physical relationship play in your marriage?
-What are your priorities when you spend money? Do you have guidelines that you use when making purchases? Do you and your spouse agree on this?
-How will your parenting resemble/differ from that of your parents?
-Do you have any concerns about bonding with your adoptive child?


And this is only a FEW of the questions that are posed to us... 

Now, these questions may seem easy to those who were brought up in Ward and June Cleaver's household, but for the rest of us... not so much.

So, please forgive me if I am quiet on here for a bit... I will be racking my heart/brain/soul for some pretty gnarly answers, and I don't think I will have it in me to post here. 

Please pray for Eric and I to dig deep and answer honestly.


  1. Wow, those are some straight to the point, personal questions! I can imagine the thoughts/feelings/questions it must bring up. Good thing you have your fabulous Father in Heaven to guide you along in it!

  2. praying as always.
    have no doubt that you and E will be amazing and approved.
    and truthfully - it's those experiences that make you the amazing wife and mother you are today!
    embrace them!

  3. Hey Amber-I will be thinking of you and praying the Lord gives you the answers in the way He wants written. He is in control! All my love.

  4. Yeah, they get a little...heavy, dont they? No worries, they just wanna get to know you and once they do, you're a sure thing! Seriously, you guys got IT ALL over Ward and June cause lets face it, the Cleavers don't exist :) and your REAL life is a true testament to Him. It's just Gods grace and your faith... it doesn't get any more perfect than that friend!